Rule #1: Take Your Life Off of Hold. A country could be run on the energy some women put into endlessly thinking about and discussing how to reach marital status quick, fast, and in a hurry before the biological clock strikes midnight. Their energy is not spent on living a purposeful life, and the joy […]
Colossians 3:15 says to “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.” Another translation of this verse urges you to allow peace to be the referee or umpire in your heart. This makes sense if you have ever been to a baseball game. The player hits the ball and takes off running. The fielder […]
Women fall into very different categories regarding the longing for love. The first is “I have no man.” The second is “I have had one man too many.” Varying lines of reason in this second category include the “Hey, someone is better than no one” way of thinking, which can lead to a succession of […]
“A man commits based on how he feels in your presence. If you believe that God will supply you with a mate, it makes sense that you will come across this person while you are doing God’s will. That setting allows a man to observe you more closely. I (Joel) have ministered at various churches […]
Monday’s With Michelle – V-Log – Episode 8 – “Why Do Mean Cheat?” – #TheRealDeal You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” (pictured below) – Available on #Amazon #BarnesAndNobles #GooglePlay #iBooks #Kindle #Nook and others. For more information, you can visit: www.MichelleHammond.com
Monday’s With Michelle – V-Log – Episode 7 – “Embrace The Pain” – #TheRealDeal You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” (pictured below) – Available on #Amazon #BarnesAndNobles #GooglePlay #iBooks #Kindle #Nook and others. For more information, you can visit: www.MichelleHammond.com
Mondays With Michelle – V-Log – Episode 6 – LOVE vs. LUST – #TheRealDeal You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” (pictured below) – Available on #Amazon, #BarnesAndNobles, #GooglePlay, #iBooks, #Kindle, #Nook and others. For more information, you can visit: MichelleHammond.com
“We cannot afford to stay in the place of shame.” Mondays with Michelle – V-Log – Episode 5 You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” (pictured below) – Available on #Amazon, #BarnesAndNobles #GooglePlay #iBooks #Kindle #Nook and others. For more information, you can visit: MichelleHammond.com
Mondays with Michelle – V-Log – Episode 4 You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” – Available on #Amazon #BarnesandNobles #GooglePlay #iBooks #Kindle #Nook and others. For more information, you can visit: MichelleHammond.com
Mondays With Michelle – V-Log – The Real Deal – Episode 3 You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.” – Available on #Amazon #BarnesAndNobles #iBooks #GooglePlay #Kindle #Nook and others.
Monday’s With Michelle V-Log – The Real Deal – Episode 2 You can purchase your copy of my book: “The Real Deal on Love and Men.” – Available on #Amazon #BarnesAndNobles #iBooks #GooglePlay and others.
The ultimate love you can experience begins by observing the first two commandments as revealed by Jesus. The first is “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30). The next is to “love your neighbor as yourself” […]
Okay, fact: God hates divorce. Fact: Because we are human and the state of our world, divorce is a reality for many. Fact: There is life and forgiveness and restoration available after divorce. If God does not condemn you, don’t let people do it either. Remember that men are not Band-Aids. I know the popular […]
Friend, never give a man the luxury of wasting your time. Every day you spend with him is a day you’re off the market. Some men will string you along because they are selfish. They don’t want you permanently, but they like what you add to their lives. If they can feed you just enough […]
The apostle Paul wrote that when he was a child he spoke and acted like a child, but when he became a man he put away childish things (1 Corinthians 13:11). The bottom line is that we all need to grow up and get past magical thinking. That kind of approach—believing love happens by osmosis […]
Anyone who has gotten something she aspired to took a risk. Love is more than a decision. It is a risk—a blind leap of faith or the ultimate bungee jump, if you will. That brings to mind a beautiful picture! Take the leap and entrust the cords of your heart to God. He is able […]
Too many people sit on the sidelines waiting for someone else to make their lives happen. Life happens when you make it happen. Love happens when your lifestyle makes you interesting and lovable because of what you bring to the party. If you’re bored, the person who could make life interesting for you isn’t going […]
As members of the kingdom of God, everything we do affects everyone everywhere all the time. We are part of a uniquely connected fellowship that has a profound effect on the world. Our lives yielded to God will create lasting legacies that further His far-reaching plan for humanity. Therefore, our choices must be weighed in […]
Every person has a moment in their lives when they face seeming impossibilities. This is when God does His best work as you yield yourself to Him. Like Mary, to take the posture that you are open to God and all His possibilities sets you up for the miraculous to occur. And yet how compassionate […]
God has wired us to be interdependent with each other while being completely dependent on Him. He uses people to assist us in our life journeys. We need one another to survive. We need one another to be fruitful. We are the body of Christ. The Word explains how we need to work together by […]
My friend, You may not always understand the way God moves in your life. At times His denial may even seem cruel. But I encourage you to always trust that He knows best. That He has considered what you can handle and, based on those calculations, He determines the path that is best to fulfill […]
The only power the past should have in your life is the ability to teach as you move forward. The past is not your present…not your future. Don’t listen to any lies that tell you life seldom changes. That life will never get better. That you are doomed to repeat your story. These are all […]
This truth may save your life, dear sister. There will always be people who don’t see your value or recognize your worth. Understand that others may try to superimpose their insecurities over you and try to rob you of your security. They may despise your confidence. The very thing they envy about you is what […]
Un-forgiveness, bitterness, and unresolved disappointment is quicksand. It sucks us in and roots us to the spot. It halts progress—our ability to let go and move on. A weariness blankets our souls and smothers the will to live, to move, to shake off the past, and to see the present for what it is. This […]
“My friend, if I could leave you with one single thought it would be this: Never fool yourself into thinking you have the right to take someone else’s husband. That is a war no woman can ever win. If you take him, you will live with shame and fear all your days. The shame you […]
Whatever your regrets, know this: Not one of your experiences in life is wasted. God uses all your mistakes and failings to reveal a greater picture of Himself and the redemption He so generously offers. Though He breaks you, He will also bind your wounds so you will become stronger than ever in Him. And […]
Today marks the 7th day of Milan’s passing so I though I would render one final but certainly not the last tribute to her. Teh pathology report revealed her colan had gotten irritated and twisted causing complications that eventually brought her passing. It has been a strange week. There is most definitely a large and […]
Though we were made from dust, God breathed His life into us. We are more spirit than flesh. Our spiritual state will always be subject to physical repercussions while we’re here on earth. My friend, believe me in this. I am talking to you not only as a sister, but as the “mother of […]
Much has been said about Beyonce singing “Precious Lord” at the Grammys, My take is basic. Ledisi sang the song in the movie and should have sung it on the Grammys, it has nothing to do with what Beyonce has sung before or any of that. She posted an explanation for why she wanted to […]
“People ruin their lives with their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord.” Proverbs 19:3-4 (NLT) Let’s face it. God and the devil get blamed for many things that are not their fault. God has given us a tremendous gift along with His generous grace. it is called the gift of choice. Our […]
Recently I went to visit a church. After a wonderful time of worship the pastor stepped forward. Without even acknowledging God or mentioning Him in any capacity he launched into full-blown warfare binding devils, witches and every principality he could think of. You could feel the atmosphere change and not for the good. As he […]
One of the most common misunderstandings that keeps us stuck is the belief that we need to feel inspired to get started. So we wait for inspiration. We wait to feel like moving forward before we move forward. Days, weeks, even months can pass without that feeling showing up, so we stay right where we […]
Stuck is a pattern of counterproductive thinking or behavior that results in your not moving forward to that which you desire. It is typically a result of internalized fear, confusion, chaos, overwhelm, being lost, lack of clarity, or pessimism. By this definition, being stuck is not something that happens one time. If you stumble once, […]
No, it is not in mere men that we trust. Ultimately our faith must be placed in God. And being submissive is not about becoming a doormat. Neither is submission a passive posture. In fact, submission is an active decision to put yourself in a position to be blessed by God. Submission is being a […]
In order to embrace the joy, peace and fulfillment we all long for we need to understand some basic things. A lack of understanding can cause us to focus on the wrong things. Things that take us away from our goal rather than toward it. We must first realize that God created us to reflect […]
A lot of us grew up feeling that wholeness would come from a relationship. Women are taught and believe from a young age that a man will come along who will make everything all right. That some man would be their knight in shining armor. That he will to come sweep them up and rescue […]
Getting our priorities in order and choosing to focus on what is relevant for the hour and season we are in is crucial to having a systematic plan that works for our lives. God is a God of order, it is in that order that excellence is found. It is He who created the seasons […]
The bottom line is we attract what we are or what we think we deserve and the two trains of thought are not that exclusive from one another. If we are what we attract, what have you been attracting or not attracting? What do you deserve and what have you been settling for? The sword […]
Is love colorblind? It should be, but lets face it, it is not. Perhaps I will have no friends left after this article but there are just a few things I would like to get off my chest though this has been a conversation for decades. Now that I have your attention let me just […]
Though it is not a permanent condition that any of us want to be in we can find ourselves in seasons where we are alone. Marriage will not solve this. Even married people can feel alone. This is why it is important to master this place in our lives that we all visit at one […]
It’s been said many times, “You can’t mix business with pleasure?” This comment has never set well with me so I decided to prayerfully consider why this failed to resonate with me as a well grounded fact. After taking a Biblical tour of how God designed men and woman to interact as a couple I […]
Relationships between men and women– both platonic and romantic– are in trouble. It is as fi all the actors in the play of love have forgotten their lines and staging directions. What was supposed to be a classic romance has turned into tragedy with all the players doing nothing more than stepping on one another’s […]
Amazing how some songs get stuck in your head. I woke up to strains of “I’m Every Woman” ringing in my head this morning. But I have to confess it was one of those days when I did not feel like “that woman.” That woman who felt great about herself and her abilities to do […]
Excerpt taken from “101 Ways To Get & Keep His Attention” written by Michelle McKinney-Hammond Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor (Ecclesiastes 4:9 KJV). Let him be a partner with you in your dreams. Set goals together. In this world where independence is applauded, many men feel […]
Excerpt taken from “101 Ways To Get & Keep His Attention” written by Michelle McKinney-Hammond A gift given in secret soothes anger (Proverbs 21:14). Secrets are binding. They make a man feel he has access to a place in your heart that no one else does. In a sense, you give power to the person […]
Excerpt taken from “101 Ways To Get & Keep His Attention” written by Michelle McKinney-Hammond. “I am your servant Ruth,” she said. “Spread the corner of your garment over me, since you are a kinsman-redeemer” (Ruth 3:9) Don’t mistake vulnerability for weakness. Just as meekness is strength under control, vulnerability is the capacity to unashamedly […]
Excerpt taken from “101 Ways To Get & Keep His Attention” written by Michelle McKinney-Hammond “The man said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’, for she was taken out of a man” (Genesis 2:23). A woman who enjoys being a woman is the most […]
This excerpt is taken from “101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention” #64 Fears Perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18) Feeling fearful? Let him into that place with you. Let him see the things that frighten you. Make him responsible for your heart, and he will take care of it. If you […]
Excerpt taken from the book Sassy, Single and Satisfied with over 200,000 copies sold: Many would say they feel loved based on what others do for them. One fondly remembers the day someone gave her flowers. ? Or soothed her pain. Or took the time to go out of his way to do something for […]
Excerpt taken from Secrets of an Irresistible Women by Michelle McKinney Hammond “I gave myself to him, and he threw my love back in my face as if it were a piece of trash.” How many times have you heard that comment or sounded it yourself? The truth is most women give too much, too […]
“Why does it seem that the woman always has to set the standard for everything” you may ask. The reality of life is, whether it is in the area of emotional or sexual etiquette, a man will always try a woman. But that’s where your power as a woman comes in. Instead of complaining about […]
“A man will step up to the plate when his is ready to claim you. He will be intentional in the steps he takes to secure your hand in marriage” When a man truly loves and wants a woman, no price is too high. He will give his all to acquire his pearl of great […]
There is a huge difference between attraction and respect. You can actually be attracted to someone you don’t respect. For an extreme example of this, let’s examine a guy at a topless bar. He sits in a trance like awe of the woman dancing in front of him. Should his daughter, sister, or mother come […]
Your Godly life is calling? Repeat after me: Take your life off of hold! Many women have decided, assumed , or been taught that true happiness comes through a relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life. Repeat after me: Take your life […]
If you are coveting the position of wife, understand and know that you were made for a man. Mmm, hmm, let me repeat that. You were made, fashioned, and designed to help a man. You were created to be a help who would meet a specific man’s specific needs. I’ve been asked if I thought […]
In the midst of our struggles to trust God and make peace with where we are in life right now,we need to turn on the Word of God as never before.The pages are filled with the stories of men and women like you and me who walked through the uncertainties and longings of life just […]
So often we feel that we are the only ones endlessly waiting for things to come to pass in our lives.We wonder if God truly understands and relates to the pain of waiting,to the grief of longing for something,to the wondering if we will ever receive our heart’s desire. As we fidget and maneuver our […]
We’re told that breakfast is the most important meal of the day because it sets our bodies on the right track for the rest of the day. It fuels us with the energy,regulates our systems and sets us on our way fully equipped to meet the day’s tasks. Breakfast provides our physical food. But what […]
The young lions suffer want and hunger;but those who seek the Lord lack no good. (Psalm 34:10 NIV) Want and hunger are two things that can be unmanageable and unending.They can make us question the goodness of God.Yet “every good and perfect gift is from above”-that is His promise to us (James 1:17). In the […]
In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:12-13 ESV) There is a secret to navigating through this life minus emotional drama. It is called knowing where our strength and satisfaction truly lie. I […]
“Come now,let us reason together”,says the Lord. “Though your sins are likely scarlet,they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson,they shall be like wool”. Isaiah 1:18(NIV) There is no failure,mistake,or stain too deep to be redeemed by the hand of our loving and merciful God.In the midst of our disappointments […]
While Joseph was there in the prison, the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden. Genesis 39:21 Does singleness sometimes feel like a jail to you? God is with you! He’s still covering you with His favor and love. Though single life may, […]
take time to check out Michelle McKinney Hammond’s article in October Essence magazine. Also check out her conversation with Cheryl Martin on living the single life on www.excellentliving.org
Reflecting and personalizing Psalm 23 today. The Lord is my Shephard: He leads me 2 good pasture where I find good things to feed myself spiritually, emotionally & physically. I shall not want: With God leading me He will lead me to where I will be filled. I will not want for any good thing. […]
A Man will receive his assignment in life before receiving his wife. This is Gods perfect order for a man’s life We have all been given dreams. Making them come to life is where the dragon slaying & damsel saving adventure begins. A strong man knows a strong woman does not diminish him or Gods’ […]
What does it profit a woman to gain a man and lose her soul! Ladies get a grip, a man should add to who you are, not make you over If a man leaves your life he should leave you a better woman than he found you. That way it’s his loss & not yours. […]
On this my birthday I am taking the time to reflect on lessons learned. 1. Life is fleeting. Tomorrow is not promised. Live fully each day. 2. True wealth is hidden in your relationships. Invest in them. You will be a richer person for the experiences and leassons learned. 3.Love cost everything in exchange for […]
Love and religion can often be at odds. Religion can be too restrictive-a silent killer of passionate relationships,while love nurtures and kindles the embers in our hearts until a raging fire warms us,drawing others to the light because the loving heart is inviting and contagious. Going through the motions without the emotions(empty religion) feels much […]
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Late in the midnight hour talking with a friend of mine we discussed why we do what we do even when we know it is not right. Why the endless struggle to just do things God’s way? Given how much we profess our faith and ascribe to having a relationship with Christ, why does this […]
They said Jesus drank too much, ate too much and hung out with all the wrong people. What do people say about you? They also said he was a Healer, a miracle worker with an amazing teacher an astounding understanding of the Word of God. What do people see you doing? The religious leaders feared […]
Last night the power went out for an hour… I lit candles and continued talking and laughing with friends. When I woke up this morning there was no water running in my home but I took it in stride…I knew the water would come, in the meantime I brushed my teeth with bottled water, filled […]
As I settle back into being single, single, single You know some folk are single, but not really, if you know what I mean… I consider lessons learned from my last relationship. First, I do not believe that God prevents anything in our lives. I believe when we listen to Him and respond to His word […]
I have to admit, the first half of my life marriage was on my goal list. Probably more because I thought it was supposed to be than anything else. Yes there was a real desire there for marriage but for all the wrong reasons. The external pressure became greater than my internal desire for marriage. […]
One of the greatest gifts God has given us is the power of choice. This has to also be the most under-used or misused gift we have. So many abdicate the power of choice in lieu of “fate”, which is not mentioned in scripture. You may say, but Michelle, the word says that “man makes […]
I wish love just happened but it doesn’t. If you don’t work your relationship, your relationship will not work. That means you have to dig in, do the work to keep your love alive and thriving. That means you have to communicate. Have meetings to handle your business. The business of love that is! Any […]
So many have asked how do you recover from love violated and trust destroyed… It’s scary but one must take the leap and dare to love again. I remember years ago I was running track at school. I had become quite good at jumping hurdles. I was made for it. I was fast with extra […]
So impressed with the comment by this sister on my facebook page I had to post it here! The Message version of Phillipians 1:9 says, ” So this is my prayer that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your […]
Keith Russell Lee When a man truly understands his role as King and Priest of the household and his wife understands her role and they understand the PURPOSE of God why they are together, infidelity is not a problem. Infidelity becomes a problem when we do not understand PURPOSE and the urgency of fulfilling God’s […]
So sad that the popular assumption is that all men are unfaithful. I feel for brothers who are sincerely holding it down! Call me naive but I believe there are a lot of men who remain faithful to wives, significant lovers and other. It has to be possible. Why would God tell people to be […]
I’m still getting up pinching myself every morning and saying, “I really am living in Ghana!” Have I said how much I love it? Is it utopia? No, but it is where God has placed me and I have learned in His presence, the fullness of His will, there is joy. Not just His joy […]
I’ve been asked what I miss about the States and I have to say nothing! This is not a negative, it is an indication of how wonderful it is to be in the center of God’s will for my life. No looking back like Lot’s wife, I am not interested in becoming paralyzed. I am […]
Everyone keeps asking me how I’m adjusting to living in Ghana and I have to say there has been no adjustment! I suppose that is the real way to know if you are in the center of God’s will. It has been seamless. No struggle, like sliding down a jello mountain. I’m still waiting for […]
Well finally the last box is out. Why is it that packig takes so much longer than unpacking? Perhaps because it is far easier to destroy than to take inventory… going over the details of one’s life is truly revealing about what you treasure. What you are willing to let go of is even more […]
