Excerpt taken from “101 Ways To Get & Keep His Attention” written by Michelle McKinney-Hammond
A gift given in secret soothes anger (Proverbs 21:14).
Secrets are binding. They make a man feel he has access to a place in your heart that no one else does. In a sense, you give power to the person who is entrusted with your secrets. Empower your man. Inspire him to use his power wisely, which he will if he feels he has your trust. Again, you must leave room for a man to rise to the occasion. Give him something to work with. Allow him to feel that he is truly a part of you.
Trust makes people responsible. Give him responsibility. Things spoken in secret allows him to know that you have confidence in his ability to keep part of you that is sacred. Make him the keeper of something in your world, and he will assume his post with diligence.
Now a word of caution: This does not mean that you tell him the sordid details of your past mistakes you are ashamed of. God has thrown those things into the sea of forgetfulness, and you should not go fishing. However, if something from your past will affect your future with this man, then wait for the appropriate time (which is after he has committed himself to you) to carefully share only the details he needs to know. Many women feel the need to spill all the beans long before the man has made a heart decision toward them, and they find themselves in dismay when he vacates the scene. Remember that love covers a multitude of sins. If love isn’t there, he will not have the capacity to handle your past. Share the secret places of yourself, but carefully choose what you share. Make sure that what you confide binds and does not separate.