I Have No Man (Take Your Life Off of Hold)

Rule #1: Take Your Life Off of Hold.

A country could be run on the energy some women put into endlessly thinking about and discussing how to reach marital status quick, fast, and in a hurry before the biological clock strikes midnight. Their energy is not spent on living a purposeful life, and the joy that other areas of life offer is ignored, for the most part. We call this common disease one-tree-itis—concentrating on the one thing you don’t have while missing the enjoyment from everything else that is at your disposal. The mother of all women, Eve, suffered from one-tree-itis and fell from grace. Ignoring all of her other options for satisfaction, she ate the fruit from the one forbidden tree. Many women have decided, assumed, or been taught that true happiness comes through a relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life. When they talk about happiness or wholeness, they immediately mention the man who isn’t there or their partner who isn’t right. They may even feel they have a good excuse for being unproductive in other areas of their lives—on which the presence or absence of a man has no bearing.

Are you feeling as if God is holding out on you, refusing to give you a mate, not paying attention to your needs or desires? Are you feeling like a woman’s got to do what a woman’s got to do in order to get what she wants? Are you feeling as if taking matters into your own hands is a better gamble than waiting any longer on God’s divine timing?

You can wait so long for something you think will bring you happiness that waiting actually replaces the pursuit of happiness. As you fix your gaze on that one desire, you postpone or miss your happiness because you don’t recognize present opportunities for joy.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond & Joel Brooks. “What Women Don’t Know (and Men Don’t Tell You).”  – Available on Amazon, BarnesAndNoble, iBooks, GooglePlay, Nook, Kindle and others. To learn more about Michelle, you can visit: www.MichelleHammond.com

The Ultimate Love Experience

The ultimate love you can experience begins by observing the first two commandments as revealed by Jesus. The first is “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30). The next is to “love your neighbor as yourself” (12:31). Fulfilling these is a full-time job that will take you a lifetime.

Perhaps we spend way too much time looking for someone to love us the way we should love ourselves. Too much time waiting for someone else to complete the picture in our lives when God already has. As we are consumed with love for God, we get a healthy appreciation for whom He created us to be, and we become whole in Him. That is transferred to how we treat others. Everything else becomes a pleasant addition to a cup already running over.

As we walk in expectation and a spirit of gratitude, God gives us the grace we need to live joyfully each and every day no matter what our current status. Finding love should never be complicated, just God orchestrated. Trust His timing. Trust the fact that He created you desirable and lovable. Trust that God has the best plans for your life. Trust Him because the best is yet to come.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.”

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Keep Your Goal in Mind

Friend, never give a man the luxury of wasting your time. Every day you spend with him is a day you’re off the market. Some men will string you along because they are selfish. They don’t want you permanently, but they like what you add to their lives. If they can feed you just enough carrots to keep you around, that works for them. Don’t let them. You’re simply putting off the hurt that’s coming your way. It will arrive eventually, and you’ll be more angry at yourself for allowing the relationship to drag on the way it did.

Keep your goal in mind. Set a time limit based on a reasonable dating period and how long you can afford to wait. Stick to your deadline, and be willing to walk. This is a gamble you must take because your future is at stake. You can’t afford to allow someone to have that much power over your future if he is not willing to make a full investment. Think of it this way. He is standing in the way of what you truly desire—a lifetime of love with a partner who sees and recognizes your worth. And that is a prize great enough to put a relationship on the line for.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.

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Available on Amazon, BarnesAndNobles, GooglePlay, iBooks and others. For more information, visit: MichelleHammond.com

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