I Have No Man (Take Your Life Off of Hold)

Rule #1: Take Your Life Off of Hold.

A country could be run on the energy some women put into endlessly thinking about and discussing how to reach marital status quick, fast, and in a hurry before the biological clock strikes midnight. Their energy is not spent on living a purposeful life, and the joy that other areas of life offer is ignored, for the most part. We call this common disease one-tree-itis—concentrating on the one thing you don’t have while missing the enjoyment from everything else that is at your disposal. The mother of all women, Eve, suffered from one-tree-itis and fell from grace. Ignoring all of her other options for satisfaction, she ate the fruit from the one forbidden tree. Many women have decided, assumed, or been taught that true happiness comes through a relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life. When they talk about happiness or wholeness, they immediately mention the man who isn’t there or their partner who isn’t right. They may even feel they have a good excuse for being unproductive in other areas of their lives—on which the presence or absence of a man has no bearing.

Are you feeling as if God is holding out on you, refusing to give you a mate, not paying attention to your needs or desires? Are you feeling like a woman’s got to do what a woman’s got to do in order to get what she wants? Are you feeling as if taking matters into your own hands is a better gamble than waiting any longer on God’s divine timing?

You can wait so long for something you think will bring you happiness that waiting actually replaces the pursuit of happiness. As you fix your gaze on that one desire, you postpone or miss your happiness because you don’t recognize present opportunities for joy.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond & Joel Brooks. “What Women Don’t Know (and Men Don’t Tell You).”  – Available on Amazon, BarnesAndNoble, iBooks, GooglePlay, Nook, Kindle and others. To learn more about Michelle, you can visit: www.MichelleHammond.com

It’s Time to Grow Up

The apostle Paul wrote that when he was a child he spoke and acted like a child, but when he became a man he put away childish things (1 Corinthians 13:11). The bottom line is that we all need to grow up and get past magical thinking. That kind of approach—believing love happens by osmosis and can be sustained in the midst of bad choices—is, well, naïve and childish at best. Sure Snow White and her prince didn’t gather information on each other before falling in love and living happily ever after—but their story is a fairy tale!

If we checked on the real-life results of a Rapunzel or Cinderella story, we’d probably find they had a very different ending. The truth of the matter is that you can’t rely on just chemistry or even spiritual inklings alone to choose a life partner who will help you achieve marital success and satisfaction.

Unless you hear from on high so clearly that “you know, that you know, that you know” it’s the voice of God saying, “My child, this is the one!” you’d better not move without gathering information. And remember, God will always confirm His word to you with accompanying signs through His Word, your circumstances, or people.

Too many women have said, “He changed” after they said “I do.” In retrospect, he was always the person he’d revealed but the woman was so happy to finally have someone’s attention that she didn’t pay attention to the facts and warning signs.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.”

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