Rule #1: Take Your Life Off of Hold.
A country could be run on the energy some women put into endlessly thinking about and discussing how to reach marital status quick, fast, and in a hurry before the biological clock strikes midnight. Their energy is not spent on living a purposeful life, and the joy that other areas of life offer is ignored, for the most part. We call this common disease one-tree-itis—concentrating on the one thing you don’t have while missing the enjoyment from everything else that is at your disposal. The mother of all women, Eve, suffered from one-tree-itis and fell from grace. Ignoring all of her other options for satisfaction, she ate the fruit from the one forbidden tree. Many women have decided, assumed, or been taught that true happiness comes through a relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life. When they talk about happiness or wholeness, they immediately mention the man who isn’t there or their partner who isn’t right. They may even feel they have a good excuse for being unproductive in other areas of their lives—on which the presence or absence of a man has no bearing.
Are you feeling as if God is holding out on you, refusing to give you a mate, not paying attention to your needs or desires? Are you feeling like a woman’s got to do what a woman’s got to do in order to get what she wants? Are you feeling as if taking matters into your own hands is a better gamble than waiting any longer on God’s divine timing?
You can wait so long for something you think will bring you happiness that waiting actually replaces the pursuit of happiness. As you fix your gaze on that one desire, you postpone or miss your happiness because you don’t recognize present opportunities for joy.
Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond & Joel Brooks. “What Women Don’t Know (and Men Don’t Tell You).” – Available on Amazon, BarnesAndNoble, iBooks, GooglePlay, Nook, Kindle and others. To learn more about Michelle, you can visit: www.MichelleHammond.com