Take Your Life Off Of Hold

Your Godly life is calling?

Repeat after me: Take your life off of hold!

Many women have decided, assumed , or been taught that true happiness comes through a relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life.

Repeat after me: Take your life off of hold!

As you fix your gaze on that one desire (a mate), you postpone or miss your happiness because you don’t recognize present opportunities for joy.

Repeat after me: Take your life off of hold!

Answer the call – Go out and live the purpose filled life God ordained for you!

Find Your Perfect Fit

If you are coveting the position of wife, understand and know that you were made for a man. Mmm, hmm, let me repeat that. You were made, fashioned, and designed to help a man. You were created to be a help who would meet a specific man’s specific needs. I’ve been asked if I thought there was only one mate for each person. My reply is this: When God decided that Adam needed a partner, He did not create Mary, Sue, and Jill and tell Adam to take his pick. He created Eve from Adam’s rib. She actually was a part of him

Get the idea?

So yes, it is highly likely that there’s several men out there who you could get along with and have a decent relationship with. However, I believe that God knows who would be the best match for you. He designed you to “fit” someone’s rib cage.


In the midst of our struggles to trust God and make peace with where we are in life right now,we need to turn on the Word of God as never before.The pages are filled with the stories of men and women like you and me who walked through the uncertainties and longings of life just like we do. They too wondered if God would show up.If their dreams would come true.If they would have the love they always dreamed of.If they would be healed,blessed,delivered.Whatever the hope,they turned to God.Their dreams and desires were beyond their ability to produce.God was and is the answer!He showed up time and time again to answer the cries of His people’s heart…and He still does.
The stories written in Scripture encourage us while we wait and give us hope.God is not a respector of persons-what He does for one He is willing to do for all.
There is hope for our lives!Hold on a little while longer and draw strength from those who know the way you’re taking because they took it first.Then dare to hope again.


So often we feel that we are the only ones endlessly waiting for things to come to pass in our lives.We wonder if God truly understands and relates to the pain of waiting,to the grief of longing for something,to the wondering if we will ever receive our heart’s desire. As we fidget and maneuver our hearts and emotions to find a comfortable place in the midst of the waiting,we once again ponder how God feels.Has He ever had to wait for anything?The answer is yes!He waits for us to be reconciled to Him.He waits for us to love Him the way He loves us.He waits for us to walk in obedience to Him.
Oh,my friends,God is well acquainted with waiting!He waits for us to become all He created us to be and acquire.He is our portion and reward,and we are His joy.He constantly cares about our welfare.He waits to exalt Himself and reveal His goodness to us.He wants to be our greatest joy so that our joy can never be taken away.

Start Your Day with God

We’re told that breakfast is the most important meal of the day because it sets our bodies on the right track for the rest of the day. It fuels us with the energy,regulates our systems and sets us on our way fully equipped to meet the day’s tasks. Breakfast provides our physical food.
But what about spiritual food?That too is needed in the morning to equip us to face the rest of the day. Spending time with God drinking in His goodness,receiving His instructions for the day,and experiencing a healthy portion of His love gets us ready.As He reminds us who we are in Him,and how we can contribute to furthering His kingdom,we are charged with a sense of purpose that empowers us to face the day with strength and joy.
You matter to God.He loves you.He is deeply interested in all that concerns you.How powerful is that!These simple facts will have an amazing impact on your heart and soul.They straighten your back,lift your head,and help you walk in authority and faith.His love fills you with gladness.
Yes,how you start your day has everything to do with how the rest of it will go.As God becomes your daily portion,you are strengthened for the day…and the days to come.


The young lions suffer want and hunger;but those who seek the Lord lack no good. (Psalm 34:10 NIV)

Want and hunger are two things that can be unmanageable and unending.They can make us question the goodness of God.Yet “every good and perfect gift is from above”-that is His promise to us (James 1:17). In the light of that,I choose to accept that I have all I need in this instant. I need no more,no less. Those who are not spiritually mature have little interest in mastering their appetites and the discipline of self-control,but people who pursue God are groomed for maturity.God is faithful to supply all the needs of those who follow Him.He refuses to withhold what He knows we need,what He knows is good for us.Although He believes in discipline,like an indulgent parent He also believes in extravagant rewards. If something is good for us,we will have it.En d of discussion. If something is not good for us,well then,we can forget about it.God is not in the business of doling out gifts He would later regret giving. No, He rejoices over every heavenly surprise He bestows because He knows it is good thing.He knows that He will reap the glory while we enjoy being blessed.And that is very wonderful thing.


In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:12-13 ESV)
There is a secret to navigating through this life minus emotional drama. It is called knowing where our strength and satisfaction truly lie. I tend not to face hard times well. I rail, I complain, I question what God is up to. I compare myself to people who seem to be doing well even though they don’t care about God or seek His agenda.

My unhappiness takes me in a myriad of directions that thoroughly exhaust me and leaves me without answers and satisfaction. I do the dance between extremes in my life until I am brought to the end of myself, which is exactly where I need to be to get to the right place. Eventually I crawl back to the center of God’s heart. It is quiet there. And in the peace I find His reassurance that He will never leave me or forsake me. He will not disappoint me. He will cover me and fulfill my longings.

He gives me grace for the day, and I find I have not perished after all. I am standing strong in Him. I can do this-but only with His help. My ego suffers the blow that I am not enough to sustain myself, and when I finally welcome the news I feel such a relief, such sweet peace it defies my understanding.

Dear heavenly Father, forgive me for trying to go on without You again. Now I am back. With You all things are possible. Remind me that it is best to wait on You and lean on Your strength. Help me remember that wisdom when I’m considering fighting my own battles or blaming You for my wounds. Grant me Your strength as I lay down my weapons and take refuge in You. In Jesus’ name. Amen

How to get past disappointment, finding hope.

“Come now,let us reason together”,says the Lord.
“Though your sins are likely scarlet,they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson,they shall be like wool”.
Isaiah 1:18(NIV)
There is no failure,mistake,or stain too deep to be redeemed by the hand of our loving and merciful God.In the midst of our disappointments and failures He invites us to come and discuss the matter with Him.He is a reasonable God.In the atmosphere of truth He will help us get to the bottom of the problem and find a solution.He isn’t put off by sin as much as He is put off by a lack of willingness on our part to own our sins and errors. If we will be honest,He will show us the way.But if we are proud,He will resist reaching out.
God gives grace to the humble, to those willing to come before Him and stretch out their dirty hands asking for cleansing.A contrite and remorseful spirit brings out the tenderness in Him.He doesn’t want to rub salt in our wounds or even accuse us.He wants to gently wash us,to wipe away the pain and disappointments.He wants to renew our hope.By His Spirit He will remove the stains from our souls and make us new.


While Joseph was there in the prison, the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden.

Genesis 39:21

Does singleness sometimes feel like a jail to you? God is with you! He’s still covering you with His favor and love. Though single life may, at times, seem to be a “hard time” for something that’s not a crime, nothing could be further from the truth.

In our alone time God sometimes does His best work in us. He reveals Himself in sweet ways that we wouldn’t experience in any other place or season of life. So we can treasure this time and place we’re in. it is often far too short-lived and underappreciated until it is over. God has His own way of getting our attention and setting us apart for Him. How long will we have to wait before we’ll be released? As long as it takes for Him to finish what He’s begun in us. Then and then will we move to the next stage of living and loving. In the end, we’ll thank our heavenly Father for all His refining work. In the meantime, let’s study to be good students of what He is teaching so we can pass this test with flying colors.

In what ways do you feel hindered in your life? What could God be pointing out during this time? What test has been difficult for you to pass?

Dear heavenly Father, help me not fight this time of testing and waiting. Show me the good so I can embrace where I am now. I want to nurture a grateful heart. In Jesus’ name. Amen

September 2012

take time to check out Michelle McKinney Hammond’s article in October Essence magazine. Also check out her conversation with Cheryl Martin on living the single life on www.excellentliving.org