Keep Your Goal in Mind

Friend, never give a man the luxury of wasting your time. Every day you spend with him is a day you’re off the market. Some men will string you along because they are selfish. They don’t want you permanently, but they like what you add to their lives. If they can feed you just enough carrots to keep you around, that works for them. Don’t let them. You’re simply putting off the hurt that’s coming your way. It will arrive eventually, and you’ll be more angry at yourself for allowing the relationship to drag on the way it did.

Keep your goal in mind. Set a time limit based on a reasonable dating period and how long you can afford to wait. Stick to your deadline, and be willing to walk. This is a gamble you must take because your future is at stake. You can’t afford to allow someone to have that much power over your future if he is not willing to make a full investment. Think of it this way. He is standing in the way of what you truly desire—a lifetime of love with a partner who sees and recognizes your worth. And that is a prize great enough to put a relationship on the line for.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.

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It’s Time to Grow Up

The apostle Paul wrote that when he was a child he spoke and acted like a child, but when he became a man he put away childish things (1 Corinthians 13:11). The bottom line is that we all need to grow up and get past magical thinking. That kind of approach—believing love happens by osmosis and can be sustained in the midst of bad choices—is, well, naïve and childish at best. Sure Snow White and her prince didn’t gather information on each other before falling in love and living happily ever after—but their story is a fairy tale!

If we checked on the real-life results of a Rapunzel or Cinderella story, we’d probably find they had a very different ending. The truth of the matter is that you can’t rely on just chemistry or even spiritual inklings alone to choose a life partner who will help you achieve marital success and satisfaction.

Unless you hear from on high so clearly that “you know, that you know, that you know” it’s the voice of God saying, “My child, this is the one!” you’d better not move without gathering information. And remember, God will always confirm His word to you with accompanying signs through His Word, your circumstances, or people.

Too many women have said, “He changed” after they said “I do.” In retrospect, he was always the person he’d revealed but the woman was so happy to finally have someone’s attention that she didn’t pay attention to the facts and warning signs.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.”

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Keeping It Real

Anyone who has gotten something she aspired to took a risk. Love is more than a decision. It is a risk—a blind leap of faith or the ultimate bungee jump, if you will. That brings to mind a beautiful picture! Take the leap and entrust the cords of your heart to God. He is able to keep you from hurting yourself. Stop jumping to your own conclusions. Seek God for the inside info on the person you’re considering and then listen to “what God reveals.”

Peace is the confirmation of God’s plan for your life. When you don’t have peace, do nothing. Don’t move forward or release your heart to someone until you have God’s peace. When you have His peace about the relationship, don’t anticipate problems. Believe in the power of love and the power of God to keep your heart and your relationship healthy and satisfying. What it takes to get your man is what it takes to keep him—and it boils down to faith.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond’s book: “The Real Deal On Love and Men.”

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Let’s Talk About LOVE

Too many people sit on the sidelines waiting for someone else to make their lives happen. Life happens when you make it happen. Love happens when your lifestyle makes you interesting and lovable because of what you bring to the party. If you’re bored, the person who could make life interesting for you isn’t going to stop to entertain you because he is looking for someone who is as interesting as he is! We attract what we are and what we think we deserve. That can be good; that can be bad. Take the “l’s” out of loneliness and you’re left with “one-i-ness.” Look past yourself and start giving away the love you already have—for others and for life.


Let me put it on the line: Get over yourself. Life is bigger than you. Love is not just about what you get out of it. It’s about what you’re willing to give to others…and not just to someone you might be interested in loving. Get involved with everyone God makes available in your world right now—keeping it healthy, of course.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “The Real Deal on Love and Men.

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GOD Knows What’s Best

As members of the kingdom of God, everything we do affects everyone everywhere all the time. We are part of a uniquely connected fellowship that has a profound effect on the world. Our lives yielded to God will create lasting legacies that further His far-reaching plan for humanity. Therefore, our choices must be weighed in light of this fact and our decisions prayerfully made. We can’t afford to lean on our own understanding by being moved by what we see, influenced by our peers, constrained by the urgency of time, or dependent on our own ideas of what our lives are supposed to look like. Instead we must believe and trust that God knows what is best. That the things He prevents are for our protection. What He allows are for our benefit and the furtherance of His kingdom.

God will orchestrate the circumstances of our lives to give us joy and fulfillment while glorifying Himself. When we do things His way, we will never live in regret. Truly the blessing of the Lord makes us rich and adds no sorrow.Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “Getting Smart About Life, Love, and Men.” 

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Women: Keep The Faith

Every person has a moment in their lives when they face seeming impossibilities. This is when God does His best work as you yield yourself to Him. Like Mary, to take the posture that you are open to God and all His possibilities sets you up for the miraculous to occur. And yet how compassionate and sensitive God is. He knows it is fearsome to believe for the impossible alone. He often provides “an Elizabeth” to walk with you. A spiritual midwife, if you will, who confirms the promises of God and will help you birth your promise.

Though women are intuitive by nature, it is still challenging to exercise faith in the face of a situation others might question. You may find yourself back in the garden with the serpent whispering, “Did God really mean what He said?” Even when you’re clear about what He said, there is a tendency to question, to second-guess. Faith simply says yes and follows God’s directions no matter if it goes against the grain of your intellect. In the fullness of time God’s promises will manifest.

What miracle are you believing God for today?

Excerpt from: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “Getting Smart About Life, Love, and Men.”

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The Value of Connections

God has wired us to be interdependent with each other while being completely dependent on Him. He uses people to assist us in our life journeys. We need one another to survive. We need one another to be fruitful. We are the body of Christ. The Word explains how we need to work together by likening us to a physical body. The hand can’t say to the foot, “I have no need of you” because every part in the body is necessary. This principle of connection is the essence of what took place in the garden. Adam needed to be connected to another human to complete the assignments God gave him. Though the man walked and talked in the cool of the evening with God, Adam needed to be joined to someone of his kind to be more fruitful in life.

Jesus understood the value of connections. He said, “I am the vine; you are the branches…apart from me you can do nothing.” Our entire existence and capacity to flourish relies on our connection to God and the relational exchange that affords us. In Him we live, move, and have our being.  Apart from Him we are nothing, but in Him all things are possible! There are endless scriptures that stress the importance of relationships and that we are not islands unto ourselves. King Solomon, renowned for his wisdom, said, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.”
Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “Getting Smart About Life, Love, and Men.” Harvest House Publishers.
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Trust God

My friend, You may not always understand the way God moves in your life. At times His denial may even seem cruel. But I encourage you to always trust that He knows best. That He has considered what you can handle and, based on those calculations, He determines the path that is best to fulfill His purposes and your destiny. When you can’t see God’s hand, trust His heart toward you, which is always focused on working all things for good. The more you are able to rest in Him and trust His motives, the happier and more fulfilled you’ll be.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “Getting Smart About Life, Love, and Men.”

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Your Hope

The only power the past should have in your life is the ability to teach as you move forward. The past is not your present…not your future. Don’t listen to any lies that tell you life seldom changes. That life will never get better. That you are doomed to repeat your story. These are all lies from the enemy to hide the truth of God’s promises to you.

True, life isn’t easy. But it wasn’t meant to be. It was meant to prove us, purge us, and refine us to be even greater than when we started out on this journey. Yes, chastening for the moment does seem grievous, but it eventually bears the peaceable fruit of righteousness if we allow God to finish what He started in us. You don’t want to stop. You don’t want to lie down on the job of life. I encourage you to continue to trust God in spite of how you feel or what you see.

Excerpt From: Michelle McKinney Hammond. “Getting Smart About Life, Love, and Men.”
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How to Deal with Haters

This truth may save your life, dear sister. There will always be people who don’t see your value or recognize your worth. Understand that others may try to superimpose their insecurities over you and try to rob you of your security. They may despise your confidence. The very thing they envy about you is what they’ll try to destroy. Be still before them and let God handle it. Give God room to intervene. Don’t cast away your confidence in Him. He is with you even when you feel alone in your struggle. He will take your part when you walk with Him.

Unapologetically, I am,
The Cushite
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