There is a huge difference between attraction and respect. You can actually be attracted to someone you don’t respect.
For an extreme example of this, let’s examine a guy at a topless bar. He sits in a trance like awe of the woman dancing in front of him. Should his daughter, sister, or mother come out to dance, however, he would be enraged. This man does not respect the woman on the platform. He is merely attracted to her. Lack of respect can cause great pain and eventually kill a relationship.
When you are emotionally healthy, you will have a deep attraction to someone you deeply respect because you both share the same values. Shared values are necessary for a happy and long-lasting relationship.
Excerpt taken from “What Women Don’t Know (and men don’t tell you)” written by Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel A. Brooks Jr.